Are you an Apple or a Pear?

I know, the title sounds like I’m about to give you a recipe for a pie or something, but I’m not! These fruit have nothing to do with cooking, but everything to do with your body type. I speak a lot about dressing for your body type, but it is necessary that you know and understand your type so you will know how to best dress your body. Before you go shopping for that new outfit learn whether you are an apple, pear or some other object. Being compared to an object like an apple or a pear is not always flattering, especially when we carry a few extra pounds that we are trying to lose.  It can be hurtful to stand in front of a mirror and look at our own body flaws trying to determine the body shape, but it is a necessary step.

It is extremely important to determine our body type – first and foremost- as it helps us to visualize a certain shape; then, we choose what to wear to best suit our body shape, making therefore, the most of our body by creating an illusion of a well-balanced figure. Remember, no one has a “perfect” body.

There are 4 body types and I’ll explain each of them below:

Pear Shape:

Pear shape

This is said to be the most common with women. Typically women with pear shaped bodies have a slender face and neck. Shoulders are shapely but also narrow and slope downward. You have a small to medium bust and a well-defined waist, while the lower area- butt, hips, thighs and calves – are comparatively larger holding most of the weight.

Dressing a Pear-Shaped figure:

We have to think about balance. We want to give the appearance of wider shoulders and bigger bust. This will help take the attention off the widest part of the body by bringing the eyes up to your face, neck and waist. So in other words what you need to do is to over play your upper body and give your lower body a slimmer sleeker look.

Do this by using color on top, wide neck lines, accentuate your waste and wear dark colors on the bottom.

Examples of Pear shaped celebrities are Beyonce, Jennifer Lopez and Alicia Keys.





 Apple shape

You tend to have a softer fuller middle, with full shapely breasts. You have broader shoulders and upper arms with an undefined waist.  You will have thinner hips and thighs and a flatter rear end than most.  When apples gain weight, they have a tendency to gain in the midsection.

Dressing an Apple-Shaped figure:

I am an apple shape. Once I came to grips with it, I had fewer purchases that turned into returns. Balance is always the goal. Our main goal here will be to lengthen or elongate your torso. We want to give the appearance of slimmer shoulders and waist. We need to draw attention away from the tummy, and draw attention to your best attributes which include your much envied breast and legs.  Focusing on your assets and emphasizing your positives will make you look much slimmer, and make for a more confident you.

Other examples of Apple shaped celebrities are Wendy Williams, Sherri Shepherd and Dolly Parton.

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Hour Glass Shape:

 Hour glass shape

They have the most proportioned body shape with their shapely shoulders and curvy hips being equal in size. Your bust will be medium to full, and is a much envied asset. Your waist is very defined, while your thighs and bottom are full and curvy as well

Dressing an Hour Glass figure:

If you are one of the ladies who are blessed with an hourglass figure, then you are very fortunate.

Since balance is always our goal, you do not need any help in this area, as the hourglass figure is considered by most to be the ideal female form. Your overall figure is the easiest to dress because most things look great on you. Our goal is to draw attention to your waist and accentuate those feminine curves without adding size to your hips and shoulders.

Examples of Hour Glass celebrities are Halle Berry, Kim Kardashian and Eva Longoria.


Rectangle Shape:

Rectangle shape

Currently this shape is the “ideal” shape for today’s top models. Your figure is lean and athletic.

You may have a fuller neck and your back is broad. Your shoulders and hips are balanced between a straighter torso with a waist that has little or no curves. There is little difference between measurements of the chest, waist and hips. Your bust is usually small to medium in size and your hips are square and your derriere is flat.  You are blessed with slim long arms and slender lengthy legs. When you gain weight it tends to go to your tummy forming a little pot belly, and your thighs and love handles.

Dressing the Rectangle figure:

Since balance is always our goal, and like the hourglass figure, you do not need any help in this area. So our goal for you is simple. We need to create the appearance of a curvier waist and bottom to enhance your femininity, and draw our focus to your great legs and thighs.

Examples of celebrities with a Rectangle shape are Gwyneth Paltrow, Cameron Diaz and Kate Middleton



When you dress for your body type, you feel more confident about your look. After you learn your body type, you should check your closet and decide if you are dressing the body you have or the one you wish you had!

In my next post, I will go into more detail about the different styles that should and shouldn’t be worn by each body type so stay tuned in a couple of weeks!





“Not all those who wander are lost…”

~J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring


Take the Leap!


Lucky for us, 2016 is a Leap year, so this month we get 29 days to get ‘er done instead of the usual short-stack of 28. This is a once-every-four-years deal, so it’s not a day to be yawned at.
Back in 1980, it was also a leap year, and my senior year of high school to boot. What’s more, it was likewise the year I asked a boy to a dance. To be clear, it was under extreme duress, being required as “Warriorette” drill team duty by our dictator of a drill team advisor. It was a Sadie Hawkins dance, which meant the girls had to do the asking. I wasn’t a dater, and I didn’t want to ask a boy out-it went against everything I was comfortable with. You know: staying home, reading, watching TV, doing homework- the gamut of fun activities for the wallflower.









But we were the sponsors as a fundraiser, so we had to set the example. So painfully, I asked this boy out. Well, technically, I didn’t ask right off the bat. There is a subtle nuance to these things, so my girlfriends and I did what all girlfriends do. We came up with a no-fail plan to ask boys without actually asking. First we picked some boys that we thought would be fun, but not get the wrong idea about long-term romance. Then we did the usual asking his friends what his answer might be if a certain someone were to ask him to a certain dance, and as a “friend” and not a “real” date. This is very complicated stuff. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, and you don’t want to make them feel like you’re just using them because your advisor is making you participate as part of your grade. (Ouch!) And so, the delicate dance begins. (Well not the actual dance, but you get my drift.) After the back-and-forth between his friends, my friends, and assurances we would not be refused, we asked our individual dates out. And thankfully, they said yes. Surprisingly, after all the pressure was off, we became bossy, as some gals are known to do. Those poor boys didn’t know what hit them as we schemed on what they, (er, I mean we), would wear.


It was a casual dance, so matching T-shirts were the go-to garb. Of course, in true 1980’s fashion we went with the classic “I’m With Stupid” and “Stupid” T-shirts. (Pretty shameful in this era of political correctness that I picked those shirts, and chose for myself the “I’m With” versus the “Stupid,” Yikes!) My date, however, was a good sport, and except for some awkward dance moves, we all had a reasonably fun time and survived the Sadie Hawkins dance unscathed. Whew!


It wasn’t until recently that I learned that the Sadie Hawkins dance was actually a spin-off of Sadie Hawkins Day. Which led me to wonder, who was this Sadie Hawkins, anyway? Well actually-she wasn’t. Not a real person anyway. Sadie Hawkins is a fictional, old-timey, larger-than-life, hillbilly comic strip character. Sadie lives in a ramshackle place in the hills called Dogpatch, U.S.A., in the cartoon strip Li’l Abner, created by Al Capp. The premise is, in a town full of yokels, Sadie is an unattractive desperate spinster-but no suitors come a courtin’. (Go figure!) Her pa wants to marry her off, so he contrives Sadie Hawkins Day to honor “the homeliest gal in the hills.” (Boy did that take the shine off my Sadie Hawkins dance experience…) The main event is a foot race for Sadie and all the single ladies (sing along if you want to), to chase down the eligible men and bag themselves a husband, with the reluctant gents getting a fair head-start. (I know what you’re thinking, because I thought it first-ludicrous! How utterly ridiculous, how sexist! That could never happen nowadays. And on the heels of that, a two-word thought popped into my head-“The Bachelor.” I guess times haven’t really changed all that much, just the tactics, come to think about it.)

Back in its heyday, the Li’l Abner series was so successful, the fan letters poured in. Due to its popularity, The Sadie Hawkins theme became an annual comic strip event lasting four decades! Faithful readers took up the plot, but rather than foot races, Sadie Hawkins Day dances soon became the norm, starting way back  in 1939.


Long before the women’s movement, a comic strip event had somehow blossomed into women’s empowerment. Due to its “ladies choice” rule, the day has since become synonymous with February 29th-Leap Day. Traditionally on Leap Day, women may do the proposing, rather than waiting on their Mr. Right to pop the question. (After my angst over asking a boy to a simple dance, that would never be for me, but a fun tradition nonetheless).

Although I didn’t appreciate it then, thanks to that silly comic strip, I had to do something I never would have done ordinarily. And I didn’t like doing it one bit. It took me out of my comfort zone. In hindsight, it taught me me a valuable lesson. The Sadies of the world don’t rest on their laurels. The Sadies of the world take action. And they don’t let their shortcomings get in their way. Truth is, Sadie (& her pa) simply got tired of waiting. Sadie Hawkins was, in a way, just a girl chasing her dreams. In her case, guaranteeing the outcome-but chasing nonetheless.

My life doesn’t come with any guarantees-but I can really relate to Sadie. Lots of my dreams have come to pass, but there are still dreams to chase and races to win. In the race of life, I’m a hesitater; a look-before-you-leap kind of person. But the thing is, leaping is good! It stretches and grows us and enables us to be more. And our dreams never grow old, even if they may seem out of reach. It all starts with a leap of faith. Faith in you!  Your abilities-Your talents-Your Dreams. Is the victory in the finish line or in the chase?






“Leap and the net will appear!”
~Julia Cameron

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